It is something we think about on a daily basis – how do we
make our interactions better?
No one likes spending a day at work or running around town
doing errands only to have a bunch of negative exchanges with people.
Right now, when we have many tense governmental situations and polarized political issues, it is easy to find ourselves at odds
with family and friends alike. There are several reactions to times
like these. Some people are simply going off on others. That’s no
you’ll only end up a lonely, bitter person. Some people are
saying nothing; that’s no good either. Life only improves when people speak up and help improve things. Another group pretends that
nothing is wrong in the world; this one is not a choice for obvious
Finally, another group is taking action. Depending on which side
you take on an issue you will support or criticize these actions.
Clearly, it is not easy to decide how you will navigate life so
that you improve your interactions.
I am someone who takes the road less traveled in terms of
health, education, religion, and occupation so I have learned how to
stand for my values while honorably interacting with people.
To find my answer I had to understand how I was made. Common teachings focus on our mind and emotions, but we are much more
than that. We are made up of a body, soul, and spirit. Just as we
have many organs, we have multiple parts of our being. Keeping all
three healthy and whole is the best way to improve all our interactions
For the sake of time, we will look at our spirit today. Right
away when I say this word, most people think flaky and esoteric. Our spirits really are our true intellect and governing body and it
has gotten a bad rap.
When we develop our spirit by connecting with our Creator, God,
we learn many essential truths for life, such as
When you look at these topics, you quickly see that people who
are not skilled in any of these areas will have a hard time
navigating through life. In my opinion, modern psychology teaches us empty tricks and false pretenses that fool us into thinking we are
improving, but really take us no where fast. Tricks such as
behavior modification do not create lasting change in a person. The best change occurs from the inside out when we take full ownership of
As I have developed my spirit with the help of God’s Spirit, I
have found I can mature in each area I listed above (not perfect,
but moving forward). When I do this over time, I have seen some
positive benefits, such as I am more likely to
Respond to verbal attacks honorably
Not fall for manipulative tactics
Keep my emotions separate from heated debates
Understand another person’s perspective instead of constantly defending mine
Loving people with different values while not compromising my
Again, I am not perfect, but the trend is definitely my friend.
Much of this sounds like a pipe dream in our over-emotional,
hair-trigger world, but rest assured it is a reality. The reason it sounds
foreign is that our culture values religious actions and psychological
maneuverings over true personal improvements.
I suggest finding some historical figures with these qualities
and studying their lives, especially their habits. Then put some of
those habits into practice. That’s what I did.